I'm Good at being Single

I've been told dozens - likely hundreds, at this point - of times that I'd make a good wife/mother or a good nun. or asked if I've considered either (can we not???).

No one has ever told me I make a great single person. That I'm good at being single. No one has ever told me I'm nailing this whole growing in virtue thing. No one has ever bothered to compliment me on my singleness.

It's almost 1am and I've decided to take issue with that. Watch as I ascend my soapbox. You can't stop me so you might as well come along for the ride.

I'm gonna tell you some things about myself you might already know know but have yet to notice in the proper light.

I don't sleep around.

I attend Daily Mass as often as possible.

I frequent confession.

I live in Adoration.

I have an active prayer life.

I dress decently.

I foster community with other people from all walks of life.

I make time for e v e r y o n e .

I have conversations about sex and being pro life with wary coworkers.

I fast and abstain to supplement my prayer life.

I do my darndest not to cuss!

I do my best to be healthy and take care of my body, my living temple of the Holy Ghost.

Sometimes, I go out and party and have a good time.

Sometimes I stay in and I read or watch TV but if I do, it's nothing raunchy.

I have a killer work ethic.

I am responsible. Dependable. Loyal. Funny. Wierd. Beautiful. all the endless good things...



All this to say, damnit people!!! I do ALL of this and the best you can offer me is "one say you're gonna make a great mom". Stop writing off my now by projecting your future on my life. You're not God and you're not helping anyone, least of all me.

What you are doing is minimizing my living a single life of virtue in an incredibly corrupt world. It's no easy feat. And I am suddenly quite over nobody lauding me for it.

Do you think this is easy? Do you think I appreciate being told all the time I might one day achieve something with my life like what I'm doing right now isn't good, beautiful, true and holy?

Don't tell me what I might be one day. Tell me what you like about who I am right now. Stop stifling my now with your anticipation of the future, it's not going anywhere. But I am. I have to get up and go to work. I have to re enter the world, dodge near occasions of sins constantly and somehow represent Christ to the Godless people I interact with, day to day. The world is a war zone. My mind, a minefield.

I'm trying to be a saint. It's not easy. The least you could do is notice and encourage me.

I'm darn good at being single - why does no one else notice or seem to care?